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He's History, You're Not: Surviving Divorce After 40 |  | Author: Erica Manfred
Creator: Tina Tessina PhD
Publisher: GPP Life
Category: Book
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Rating:  11 reviews
Sales Rank: 8315
Media: Paperback
Edition: First
Pages: 320
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Dimensions (in): 8.3 x 5.5 x 0.9
ISBN: 0762751355
Dewey Decimal Number: 306.893
EAN: 9780762751358
ASIN: 0762751355
Publication Date: May 5, 2009
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In He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, Erica Manfred shares her own divorce experience, as well as the advice of experts, with specific sections tailored to women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. Manfred was left for a younger woman in 2003, and eventually learned to both survive and thrive. After educating herself in the areas many women have barely even thought of when considering divorce, she is the kind of girlfriend a woman needs when facing both menopause and the trauma of divorce. She can help save divorcees lots of anguish, and lots of cash. HE’S HISTORY, YOU’RE NOT discusses how to: · Avoid “kiss of death” marriage counselors to determine if reconciliation is possible. · Find an affordable divorce lawyer who does not snort scornfully at the word “mediation.” · Survive the first, worst, year. · Deal with your adult or teen kids (who can be just as devastated as small children). · Get back to work or find a new career. (Age discrimination does not have to stop you.) · Use the Internet to date the Viagra generation. · Restore your self-esteem despite body parts that have succumbed to gravity. · Forgive the bastard (and yourself) and finally move on…and much more.
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Looking Back & Going Forward January 30, 2010
Diana Mitchell
I got the book on a Friday and finished reading it by that Sunday evening! And now the advice I would give a friend heading for a divorce is to read "He's History, You're Not". And then I would tell her to keep reading it beacause this is a resource that divorced women cen return to again and again for advice, information, and support.
My own divorce took place some time ago. Yet, I found Erica Manfred's "girlfriend chat" approach to be a reminder that the emotional divorce and recovery are ongoing. The nuggets in this book nourished my spirit and fed my soul. Just reading about how Erica and other divorced women reinvented their lives has given me a huge boost of reassurance. And now I am poised to take some big leaps in reinventing my own.
A great read for divorcing women in their thirties too! August 26, 2009
Delaine Wiszniak (Canada)
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
Although I'm not yet in my forties, I thoroughly enjoyed and learned a lot in reading Erica's He's History, You're Not. Not only does Erica help women smarten up around the divorce process, I found her voice felt warm and kindred - like that of a big sister. We stand to gain so much by listening to the stories of women from different generations; the overlap is tremendous. I now move forward with new knowledge and more respect - not just for my older divorced `sisters,' but for myself.
Moving On July 13, 2009
J. Hare (Riverside, CT)
3 out of 3 found this review helpful
Erica gives you step by step emotional tools to move past your Ex, and move forward with your life, at any age. Thanks to Erica, sending late night, wine-fueled hate emails to my ex are a thing of the past. I feel so grown up now! I still write them and get out my feelings, but,as Erica suggests, I wait until the next day to edit and rethink before sending. Erica's chapter on Living Alone and Liking It is also enormously helpful. For the lonely, she recommends getting a dog because..".they are better companions than most men." Ain't that the truth! Another fabulous recommendation is to Feng Shui your home... go through your home, de clutter, rearrange your stuff and create a peaceful vibe. My neighbor, for example, after her husband left, found it very therapeutic to sell off his remaining belongings at a yard sale, including his expensive golf clubs. With the profits she re-did her bedroom in lace and lots of pink. Now her new landscaper boyfriend is over all the time.
 Useful, practical and fun to read! June 4, 2009
Sandra G (Columbus OH, USA)
3 out of 3 found this review helpful
The best thing about this book is that you can pick it up and get whatever information you need right away! Each chapter is relevant to a particular aspect of divorce so you can read as little -- or as much -- as you like (and you'll probably find yourself reading more than less). It's all there, at your fingertips.
Having been there Erica Manfred has great empathy for her readers and she also calls upon a wide range of experts, friends and peers to provide useful words of wisdom. Unlike other divorce books with their cutesy cartoons and chirpy prose, Erica tells it like it is -- although you may not always agree with her views on Internet dating or what exactly defines "old." Still this book is a must-read for anyone contemplating or going through a divorce after 45 -- it will definitely help you navigate through the toughest of times!
Great Book for Divorcees Over 40 May 28, 2009
L. Wallace-Lee (Buffalo, NY, USA)
5 out of 6 found this review helpful
What a great book! I was lucky enough to meet the author, Ms. Erica Manfred, in person, and when I heard that this book was coming out, I knew I had to have it. Her book is timely in my situation, as my husband of 26 yrs. just asked for a divorce. Ms. Manfred's writing style is both humorous and unflinchingly honest while being helpful at the same time. Not only does Ms. Manfred share her own painful experiences of her divorce, but she has done enormous amounts of legwork to gather expert's opinions and other divorcees' stories of suffering and survival. Reading this book helped me immensely to understand and take steps to survive my own impending divorce. While reading this book, I cried a few times when seeing the parallels in my situation and Ms. Manfred's divorce, but it also made me laugh to hear her honest confessions of revenge fantasies and her less-than-perfect behavior during her ordeal. Most importantly, it gave me some fresh insights into what is happening and what will happen to me during this transition in my life. She covers several topics that seem to be unique to women over 40 who get divorced, like financial security, feeling like a dinosaur in the dating arena, being sensitive to your kids' feelings even if they're adult now, and getting legal representation to assure you don't get screwed over by your ex. If you or any over-40-woman that you know is getting divorced, get this book! I plan on buying two more copies, one for a friend who is going through a messy divorce, and for my therapist, who is intrigued by the content of this book and who feels that she should read it and share it with other clients who are in a similar situation. I recommend this book highly for any woman in my and Ms. Manfred's situation. You'll be glad you read it!
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